How you think about problems
matters a lot
Does thinking about your
problems cause lots of stress? Do you feel overwhelmed when facing a life
challenge? Hoping to find strategies to help you feel more empowered?
If the answer is yes, you’ve
come to the right place. That’s because I’d like to share with you ten cognitive
restructuring techniques designed to reduce your stress and generate greater
Some of these may seem like
no-brainers. Others may cause you to pause and reflect.
Avoid the playing the blame game
It takes courage to recognize that you are responsible for the many challenges you meet. Even if someone’s mean, how you view circumstances is up to you.
When you blame another
person, you let them
control your well-being. It’s far better to take charge of your
Accept culpability and you
have the power to improve your life.
Create new mental pictures for stressful events
Whatever you picture stays
alive in your mind. You feed memories when you go over them and focus on the
As you do so, you revive
painful emotions and deepen neural pathways in your brain that help you return
If you can’t stop creating mental images of unwanted memories, play with what you see. Change them from color to black and white., or think of a place you find calming.
Put a frame around them.
Shrink them and add a silly cartoon character voice to lighten the mood and the
pictures may fade.
Recognize life lessons
Everyone must deal with problems. Happy people consider setbacks stepping-stones to their greatest achievements. Without them, they wouldn’t discover what to do or increase resilience.
Think of problems as life lessons. As long as you learn from them, they are valuable. That is what experience is and how you grow resilience!
Talk about what works
The saying “it’s good to
talk” isn’t always true. Sometimes it’s better to sit in silence and seek inner
wisdom rather than tell everyone your problems.
When you talk about
difficulties often, you focus on negativity.
Before you can feel better,
you must alter your mood. So, leave unproductive exchanges with pals for times
when they offer wise advice unless you want to stay unhappy.
Know your problems won’t last
Some challenges seem huge at
the time you meet them. You think they will never leave. All situations change
however. Even those you want to stay the same will alter over time.
Your problems will shift, and
in a few weeks or months you may wonder why they upset you in the first place.
Bear this idea in mind when
you face troubles and train yourself to see the light at the end of the tunnel.
do you think about your problems?
Encourage helpful conversations
Doesn’t it feel great when
people agree with you? Nonetheless, do you really want your confidants to
approve of the reasons you give about why you should be unhappy?
Rather than strive to get
friends to agree with you and strengthen your misery, ask them to help you
recover. Seek wise counsel from people who offer fresh perspectives.
Never hang your hopes on one
solution. If you think there’s only a single way to solve problems, you narrow
your vision of what might be and miss opportunities to manage well.
When in debt, for instance, a
bank loan isn’t the only way out. Maybe you can sell something, start a small
business, or borrow funds from a family member.
Think big. Consider there
must be plenty of ways to deal with problems. Brainstorm ideas.
Jot them in a notepad even
when they seem silly, and you’ll come up with ways to cope and improve.
Understand you are not alone
However strange the problem
you face, you’re not alone. Many people are going through similar difficulties
now and plenty will later too.
If you don’t know how to
cope, find out how other people deal with similar difficulties and learn from
their mistakes and successes.
Trust your inner voice
Many people who love to give
advice will appear out of the blue if you talk about your problems. Their way
of coping, however, may not suit you and they might offer bad advice.
Follow guidance only if it’s
useful and after carefully looking at other measures.
People might offer sensible
counsel, but discount advice from individuals who insist you do as they say.
Only you know what’s best for you.
Let go when it’s time
People sometimes cling to the
past. They revisit old problems so often their memories become part of who they
are in the present. They identify with painful events that color everything
they do and think.
If you are hanging on to a
problem, recognize the time has come to let it go.
When you forgive people who
have caused pain in your life, you surrender negativity and regain your
emotional freedom and get back to the business of living.
The way you think about your
life struggles largely impacts your mood. By shifting your perspective and
changing your lens, greater happiness is possible.
Cognitive restructuring gives us a simple and successful way in which to change the way we view and think of the world around us. By taking an active and structured approach to positive change, we grow towards the person we want to become.
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